The " Cult of Oprah " centers around a delusional Narcissistic Personality

Classic Narcissism.... That can be the only way to explain Ms. Winfrey.

Today marks the day that Oprah’s favorite things were revealed and most prominent among those things were "herself" of course....The overindulgence and ultimate stupidity on display on D'Oprah's show are sickening. To a nation that has started to see the ugliness in being obsessed with indulgence, Ms. O is the ultimate reason why we have a weakened national morality.

She has long preached from her own delusional world saying that she alone was the only one who could show us how to live better and correctly...Her monthly magazine features her OWN PICTURE on every issue, month after month - If that ain't narcissistic, what the hell is??

The " Cult of Oprah " centers around a delusional Narcissistic Personality.

Here is the actual definition - see what you think.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Pathological narcissism is a life-long pattern of traits and behaviours which signify infatuation and obsession with one's self to the exclusion of all others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition.

As distinct from healthy narcissism which we all possess, pathological narcissism is maladaptive, rigid, persisting, and causes significant distress, and functional impairment.

Feels grandiose and self-important; Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), or ideal, everlasting, all-conquering love or passion; Firmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special, can only be understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other special or unique, or high-status people (or institutions); Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation – or, failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (Narcissistic Supply); Feels entitled. Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her unreasonable expectations for special and favourable priority treatment;

Feels superior, omnipotent, omniscient, invincible, immune, "above the law", and omnipresent (magical thinking). Rages when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted by people he or she considers inferior to him or her and unworthy.

Pathological narcissism was first described in detail by Freud in his essay "On Narcissism" (1915).

DAMN - sounds spot on to me....Today, she gave her guests a long list of prizes and the cost of the items she gave each member of her audience was about $25000. That means each one of her guests now OWES $10 GRAND in Gift Taxes to the Federal Government. Seeing she was one of President Doofus' biggest supporter, this makes perfect sense as she just supplied the FEDS with a pile of new tax $$$$$. I am sure the poor fools in the audience will get the bad news later on and boy will they be sorry.....sorry to see there really is no free lunch, and that Ms. O allowed them to get further in debt than they were before attending her show. Suckers.

Heaven save us from these self-indulgent idiots and bring our country back to sanity. OPRAH is one in a long line of hucksters, self imposed and lacking any real value. Those who follow her get what they deserve - empty wishes of greed and a ticket to Ms. Winfrey's world which revolves around her.

UGH....I need a barf bag. Compare this idiot to the contributions to our society made by a single member of the military, defending our freedom and providing protection to those in need and you can easily see why Oprah is revolting and without any moral value. Please, just go away.

Apologies not being offered at this time - The sequel - " A gender apology gap"....really...we are not surprised.

Back in June 2010, I wrote a post about the obsessions that a large number of public people & other entities have regarding a need for everyone and anyone to apologize anytime someone else demanded one.... at the time, I was under pressure from a misguided supervisor to proffer an apology to a coworker - This supervisor has a serious issue with knowing how clueless he is about how things really were (at the time) - suffice to say, I was NOT interested in apologizing to anyone as I did not felt I had done anything to deserve his rebuke.....and I did not make an apology.....

Like I stated before, "IF" I did something wrong, I would have readily offered an apology but when a clueless person "demands" an apology, they are likely to have a long wait....

Here is the link to the previous post -

usnavyjeep.blogspot.com/2010/06/apologies-not-being-offered-at-this.html

I wrote the enclosed:

"WHERE in this God's green Earth did the need for all this apologizing come from and who decided that it needed to be done in the first place???"

Google News reports that the word “Apology" in news stories generates 27,800 hits .....Are you kidding me???? What the heck happened that every little slight now must require a public lashing and an apology??? How Oprah-fied has this country become that whenever anyone complains, we all need a Dr. Phil intervention and a group dissertation AND a public apology.....Give me a Frickin break. "

Well now we flash forward to find out that some Academic types may have taken my question to heart as they seem to have found an answer..... and let's say I am NOT surprised by their findings....and neither is OPRAH.....shocker.


I'm Very, Very, Very Sorry ... Really? We Apologize More to Strangers Than Family, and Why Women Ask for Forgiveness More Than Men

By ELIZABETH BERNSTEIN - WSJ

I'd like to tell the man whose cab I stole in the rain last week that I'm very sorry. But to my mom, whose driving I criticized recently? Not so much.
Elizabeth Bernstein discusses the various ways men, women, strangers and family members apologize.

I'm in good company on this. According to new research from Canadian psychologists, people apologize about four times a week. But, on average, they offer up these apologies much more often to strangers (22% of the time) than to romantic partners (11%) or family members (7%). The only folks we apologize to more? Friends (46%).

Why is it so hard to say "I'm sorry" to someone we love? Ask Phil Peachey. He knew he was in trouble when he woke up one morning to find his wife banging utensils around the kitchen. What was wrong? "Nothing," she said. He asked her again. She gave him the cold shoulder.

Then he came up with the answer: Pinot Grigio—a lot of it—which he'd drunk the night before. Had he really told her he didn't trust her sense of direction and called her "stupid"?

Uh-oh. Mr. Peachey, a 47-year-old real-estate broker in Orlando, Fla., quickly offered his best apology: "Is there anyone who would like a new pair of shoes?"

"Nothing says 'I'm sorry' like Christian Dior," he says.

Odds are your mother taught you that it's important to apologize if you've done something wrong—and to graciously accept an apology when one is offered. The act of making amends is crucial to maintaining harmony in both our personal relationships and the world at large.

Apologies are so important that many hospitals train their staffs to say they are sorry to patients and their families following a medical mistake because they've found it deters malpractice lawsuits. Economists have shown that companies offering a mea culpa to disgruntled customers fare better than ones offering financial compensation.

But apologies can be complicated. They're not always forthcoming, or even sincere. Making matters worse, there's a gender "apology gap": Men and women have different approaches and different expectations when it comes to acts of contrition.

Conventional wisdom says women apologize too much, and men don't apologize often enough. Women are good at nurturing relationships, the thinking goes, while men are too egotistical to say they're sorry or have a different take on social graces. Yet there's no proof that women are better than men at apologizing—they just do it more often, sometimes for inconsequential offenses.

Two small studies at the University of Waterloo in Ontario, published last month by the journal Psychological Science, indicate men are just as willing as women to apologize if they think they've done something wrong. Men just have a different idea of what defines "something wrong."

In the first study, 66 men and women kept daily diaries and recorded each time they committed—or were on the receiving end—of an offense. They also noted whether an apology was issued. The outcome: Women were offended more often, and they offered more apologies for their own behavior. Yet men were just as likely as women to apologize if they believed they'd done something wrong.

In the second study, 120 subjects imagined committing offenses, from being rude to a friend to inconveniencing someone they live with. The men said they would apologize less frequently. The researchers concluded the men had a higher threshold for what they found offensive. "We don't think that women are too sensitive or that men are insensitive," says Karina Schumann, one of the study's authors. "We just know that women are more sensitive."

Sandra Elmoznino, 27, a New York City teacher, says she apologizes all the time, whether for calling a friend too early in the morning or showing up two minutes late. "I want to be in everyone's good graces," she says. "It's an anxiety thing."

Recently, though, Ms. Elmoznino has begun to feel that the constant apologizing has become a handicap. Her friends tease her about it. Men she has dated find it annoying. Her twin brother told her it makes her look unsure of herself. As a result, she's now making a conscious effort to apologize only when she's really done something wrong. "I don't want to be like the boy who cried wolf," she says.

Funny, the men I spoke with agreed that women are too sensitive, though most of them were reluctant to talk on the record. I promised anonymity, though, and they piped up:

"Apologize? What language is that?"

"Women care too much."

"One of the first requirements of getting into relationships with women is to rehearse saying 'I'm sorry' as many times as possible."

"If a husband speaks in the forest and no one hears him, is he still wrong?"

I pressed on, and asked men to explain exactly why they apologize—when they do:

"To move on."

"To end the drama." (Hmm. This from a man who's apologized recently to me.)

"To be honest, men never—well, almost never—have any idea what we are apologizing for," says Mark Stevens, 63, chief executive of MSCO, a Rye Brook, N.Y., marketing consulting firm.

Mr. Stevens says during his 35-year marriage he has sincerely apologized to his wife, Carol, just five times—but has said he's sorry an additional 3,500 times. He calls these mea culpas "fraudulent apologies." They go something like this: "I don't know why you're unhappy, but I'm sorry."
"Ninety percent of apologies are to keep the peace," he adds. "How can you have a sincere apology if you don't know what you've done?"

He still remembers when, years ago, he and his wife agreed to buy a vacation home in Vermont and consider it their anniversary gift to each other. On the night of the anniversary, though, he found his wife slamming silverware into a drawer. (Sound familiar?) His transgression: He hadn't bought her a gift.

The Juggle: Life Means Sometimes Having to Say 'I'm Sorry'

."Despite the agreement we both made, I apologized because I realized she was hurting and I had overlooked something," Mr Stevens says. ("He has no clue," says Ms. Stevens, 57. "Sometimes I'll just let it go.")

Mr. Peachey, of the Pinot Grigio episode, says he also was trying to do his best. To show remorse, he took his wife to the mall and bought her the shoes—and an iPad. "That was a $1,000 insult," he calculated.

Yet his wife, Rochelle, the 46-year-old director of an Internet dating site, says all she really wanted was the apology: "I told him, had he just put his arms around me and said he was so sorry he screwed up and that he loved me, that would have been enough."

Need help with your own apologies? Here are some tips:

Know what you did wrong. If you're not sure, ask.

Show real remorse. Don't say: "I'm sorry you are hurt," which suggests the person is too sensitive. Say: "I am sorry I hurt you."

Don't be defensive. Don't use the word "but," as in, "I am sorry, but…"

Offer to make changes. It helps to say, sincerely, that you will try not to make the same offense again.

Don't throw in the kitchen sink. If you're the one who wants the apology, stick to the matter at hand. Don't bring up past slights.

Try humor. A little self-deprecation can go a long way.

Don't delay. Just do it. An imperfect apology is better than none at all


Write to Elizabeth Bernstein at Bonds@wsj.com

Apologies not being offered at this time...so sorry.

There has been a marked increase in the whole " Apology " concept in our society....we see daily demands from one politician that another has done something and the allegedly aggrieved person is now demanding an apology. We hear a constant stream of people from politics, business and all other spectrums demanding apologies for some slight....we see that people are being counseled to be "more sensitive" to others so as not to offend....We have POTUS running around on his " World Apology Tour" telling our allies and enemies that America is sorry for all the things we allegedly did....

Hold on, I just threw up in my mouth a little...geez.

Can I ask, “WHERE in this God's green Earth did the need for all this apologizing come from and who decided that it needed to be done in the first place???"

Google News reports that the word “Apology" in news stories generates 27,800 hits .....Are you kidding me???? What the heck happened that every little slight now must require a public lashing and an apology??? How Oprah-fied has this country become that whenever anyone complains, we all need a Dr. Phil intervention and a group dissertation AND a public apology.....Give me a Frickin break.

This all goes back to the lack of accountability that has been the hallmark of the people in power now who were the Hippies, a.k.a. as " Flower Children". They took the " Do whatever feels good" philosophy into later adulthood and raised a whole group of idiots who were told, " Well, we don't want to damage his self esteem...", as if correcting little Johnny on when he does something patently wrong would somehow wreck his psyche for life.

I have heard these idiots spouting off about, " Well we don't want to offend anyone.." - I disagree, we NEED to offend some people especially when they act like idiots and expect everyone else to tilt toward their warped view of the world....Offending some is the only way you can snap them out of their self-indulgent comas.....It is " Political Correctness" gone astray - like "Micro-management", it is a flawed concept from it's inception.

I grew up in a house where you were held accountable for your actions and also expected to follow the rules. You were also taught that the world doesn't owe you anything and you need to have a bit of a thick skin. Nowadays, we have a world full of crybabies who take any slight as reason to throw a hissy fit and demand the whole world cater to their self-indulgent sense of outrage and need for an apology.....Like we really cared about how they "feel" about anything.

Here's a clue for you little Johnny and your Parent/Leaders/Whomever who thinks they need an apology for whatever you feel has been done to you, real or imagined - and this goes especially for the alleged indignant religious fanatics who say we have defamed their beliefs - ready??

GET OVER YOURSELF....you are not the center of the universe and the world and others don't owe you an apology. You need to pull your head outta the place you stuck it, and get back to doing the work instead of focusing on the imagined slights you have manufactured...You need to have a little bit more of a thick skin.

Those of us who are adults, that have a well placed sense of honor and understand what really must be done are sick & tired of your petty arse stupidity...It was rejected by society when you were immature adolescent hippies and we STILL reject it now that you are aging politically correct hippies.

That's also why those in charge in Washington are being rejected by the American people - Pelosi, Reed, POTUS, Napolitano, Geitner - They are all from this ilk of addled brained idiots who think the world revolves around them and their view of how things "should be" is correct when in reality, the majority of clear-minded people can't stand to listen to how clueless these idiots are....That's why the November 2010 election cycle will be a joy to witness.....the idiots in WASH DC will be getting some "friendly fire" that's for sure.

The rules of how real men/women behave have not changed and the world could give a rat's arse less about your need for an apology. You haven't done anything worthy in your life and the sooner you get out of the way, the sooner the rest of us can go about the business of doing what is needed, and not worrying about your warped sense of indignation.

Waiting for an apology from me for whatever it is you think I've done to offend you??

Good Luck with that - you are in for one hell of a long wait.... you got a better chance of seeing the President show up at his next news conference in a pink party-dress than thinking I will ever subscribe to your need for an "apology" over every little slight.....or supply one to you....what a joke.

" I have neither the time nor the inclination to explain myself to a man who rises and sleeps under the blanket of the very freedom I provide and then questions the manner in which I provide it. I would rather you just said "thank you," and went on your way. Otherwise, I suggest that you pick up a weapon and stand a post. Either way, I don't give a damn what you think you are entitled to..."

That quote from A Few Good Men" just about sums it up...

I am accountable for my actions and will recognize a mistake when it is made but have no patience for the self-appointed idiots who think they have the right to inflict upon the rest of us what they believe is right/wrong in life....you have no more moral ground to stand on and definitely have no right to lecture to me, or anyone else. That is my main gripe with the Oprah/Dr. Phil idiots - They are "self-appointed" as no one told them they could be the deciders of what's right or wrong in life - they just decided to appoint themselves and expected everyone to blindly follow them.....Get lost.

It's in line with what Clint Eastwood's character Gunny Highway said to the Officer who was his perrinial pain-in-the-neck in the movie Heartbreak Ridge;

" With all due respect, sir, you're beginning to bore the hell out of me.."

Then followed up with the other line that fits from the Colonel who admired Gunny Highway for being a hard-charger and wonders why Highway and Sgt. Major Choozoo are still standing there after they finished up their assault on the enemy

Colonel Meyers: “What the hell are you two sorry assed individuals looking at? Get the hell off of my LZ !”

That's what I feel like telling these self-indulgent Oprah-fied/Dr. Phil, Hippie-philosophy, Politically correctness, apology requesting idiots can do -

Get the Hell off my LZ !